Father’s day was never an important day for me. It never got me excited. It never made me angry. It was just another Sunday to me, and that’s how I treated it. I don’t ever remember celebrating fathers day until after i had my own child. Don’t get me wrong i know some amazing fathers that i could have celebrated with, but it just didn’t feel right. If I never celebrated with my own dad why would I celebrate with anyone else.
Let’s take it back for a second. I remember sitting in class, and the teacher gave out paper and crayons. She told us to make our fathers day cards. Everyone was so excited, and they got right to work. I sat there for a while, and then I began to draw. I drew my name with a bunch of hearts and stars around it. My teacher walked by and asked me why I wasn’t making my card for my dad. I remember looking up at her and saying “why make a card for someone I wont see, when I can make something pretty for myself instead.” she looked at me shocked. I just knew I was in trouble. Instead she smiled and told me that my picture was nice as she walked away. I handled every fathers day just the same way I handled that card. Why stress over a day when I can just go do something for myself.
Now I know some of you may be thinking I don’t know my dad, but trust me I do. My dad just did a lot of popping in and out of my life when I was younger. Just so happens he never happened to be in my life for fathers day. There weren’t any other father figures in my life for me to celebrate with either. I watched as my cousins wished their dad a happy fathers day, and gave him cards and gifts. I will say that when I did finally get to celebrate father’s day I was glad that it was my first time.
Lets just say God is funny. Believe it or not the first time I celebrated father’s day was june of 2013, and it was with my dad.(bet you didn’t see that coming) I was just as shocked as you. It felt good to finally be with my dad and be able to wish him a happy fathers day. So let’s get into what got us there.
When I found out I was pregnant and stuck in the hospital my dad used to come and sit with me on the weekends. He would come and he stayed all day, until visiting hours were over. He would come bring me food and we would talk and watch tv. I never wanted to go to sleep, because I was afraid that when I woke up he would be gone. When i would finally fall asleep and wake up, he would be right there sleeping in the chair. I remember one day I called him crying telling him the baby was coming. He left work and rushed to the hospital. He worked on Staten island. I was in the hospital in brooklyn. I remember they wouldn’t feed me and when he got there I was so hungry. He sat in that room with me all night waiting for the baby to come. I was so hungry and so thirsty. He snuck me in some chicken and a few sips of soda. It was the best meal I ever had. The baby never came that night. When my son finally did come he had to stay in the hospital. My dad used to go with me to visit when he wasn’t at work. When we found out the baby would be coming home he took me shopping and he brought the baby all these little outfits. He used to say they were gonna have matching kangol hats. We spent our first fathers day together that year. I brought my first father’s day card and it made my heart so happy. I was super nervous standing in the store trying to pick out the perfect card that would express all that I was feeling. I was that little girl again but this time I wanted to draw his name in the hearts and stars. I finally had the dad I always wanted. It may have taken me awhile to get him but he was here and I was grateful. I’ve celebrated every father’s day after that.
I can’t talk about father’s day and not talk about the man I’m lucky enough to raise my sons with. Listen when you look up the world’s greatest dad, I’m sure there’s a picture of my husband somewhere under those words. This man goes above and beyond for his sons everyday. There isn’t a day that goes by that he isn’t trying to better his situation so that his kids can have better. He works hard for his family even when his body wants to give up. Before we got married I watched him go without just so his son wouldn’t have to. There is never a moment that our kids are doing something that he isn’t there to cheer them on. I knew from the first moment I saw him with his son that this was the man I wanted to build with. I can’t tell yall to much about him don’t need nobody trying to slide up on him. Just know that if our sons turn out anything like him they will be nothing short of amazing.
I’m blessed and my sons are lucky to have these two guys in their lives.
Happy Father’s Day
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